The Mysticism called Marriage


Loads of hardwork goes into the preparation for a wedding. It is heartening to see your cousins and friends getting married and stepping into the next phase of their lives.



Suddenly, so many people around me seem to be tying the knot. Over the past 3 months, 2 of my first cousins got married. Last month, my batchmate at college was the one who entered wedlock. The trend continues at work too. There are only 3 bachelors in my team now, which originally boasted a good number(6) less than a year back, when I joined. Things don't end there. I just heard that one of my classmates from college has got engaged and is getting married very soon.



Marriage, according to me, is an overdose of responsibilities. It's fun to attend a wedding, not to be part of it(the bride or the groom!, atleast for now!!!) A big NO No. Funny it may sound, however, I've witnessed a lot of people changing a ton (life takes a U-turn, nothing but a NAAMAM)after their so-called better halves entered their lives. An enviable marriage would ideally not lead to such consequences.



I would love to see people brighter than before, when they return after marriage. However, this has seldom been the case. I do not want to lend credence to this argument of mine with examples as it is needless.



That was just a passing thought I had about marriage coz I've been atttending too many of them in the past few days. No offence fellow-bloggers!



Hope everyone around getting married lives happily ever after!

Comments

Arun Madas said…
Marriage - A licensing term used to pair up with a female n create new generations... Every one will go through happy and sad phases of life... You probably didnt find a striking female who can bring you down to earth with one simple thought - i like u.. will u marry me.. hope that happens soon !!!
May 22, 2007 at 4:51 PM
Ganesh Jeyaraman said…
@ arun:
yeah arun..maybe thats true...but still, u'll have to accept that things change after marriage(?!)... i know it's debatable though.
May 23, 2007 at 1:51 PM
Anonymous said…
Things change...for both parties...Namam dosent pertain for one alone. They change for better or for worse depending on whether it was a compromise or choice. Marraige can be full of adjustments, but can never be a compromise. Thats when you are in the blues. So Ganesh make an educated choice (even in an arranged marriage) and you will be more happy than in a compromise.
May 23, 2007 at 3:52 PM
Ganesh Jeyaraman said…
@ anonymous:
yeah.......i agree with that...thanks for the suggestion ..will keep that in mind when the time comes.. marriage should 'ideally ' not be a compromise....but it could rarely turn out to be, for the unfortunate..... Thats what i was referring to.
May 23, 2007 at 5:51 PM
Yogesh said…
So Ganesh is feeling very lonely...is it? Ok friends, CT Dev team is going to have one more married man sooner. ;)
May 23, 2007 at 7:12 PM
Ganesh Jeyaraman said…
@ Yogesh:
hey ....u dont like it if ppl are happy ah?......ur dreams ll not come true!
May 23, 2007 at 8:34 PM
Krithika said…
hey..jus remembered you had a post on marriage, and wanted to check what you wrote, now that you are going to get into wedlock..things HAV changed in 3 yrs eh? :)
December 3, 2010 at 10:07 AM
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